Self-Care Is More Than A “Mani /Pedi “


“If you are not Self-Caring you are probably Self-Medicating”

If you would have asked me several years ago to define Self-Care, I would have thought back to the last time I had a manicure and pedicure.  Don’t Laugh, that was reality! Manicures and pedicures are great, but there is so much more to taking caring of ourselves.

Let’s face it… life is complicated.  The stress and energy needed to keep up with and care for family, home, and work can be overwhelming. On top of this, throw in the worry of the great pandemic of 2020 or the poor choices a loved one continues making.

With all this, how can the focus be on Self-Care?

The reality is, if we do not take time to fill ourselves with needed care, our emptiness will  produce a life that feels hurried, frustrating, tiring, overwhelming, resentful, and lacking in overall life satisfaction .

A doctor once told me, “If you are not Self-Caring than you are probably Self-Medicating.” Self-Medicating with alcohol, drugs, eating, worrying,  shopping, work, TV….your get the picture.    These words may be hard to hear, but think about it?

So, what is Self-Care? And how do we begin doing a better job of this?

The simple answer is asking ourselves often (daily or several times a day) “What do I need at this very moment”?  In order to be fueled and filled, we must consider our needs in all areas of our humanness. Some examples look like this:

Physical needs: I am hungry, I need healthy food.  I need to take a walk and breathe in fresh air.  I need sleep.  I need to sit and simply rest. I need to lose some weight. I need to play more and work less. I need to make time for daily exercise.

Emotional needs: I need to talk kinder to myself.  I need to be with others who love and accept me. I need new friends who are supportive. I need to reach out to someone else in need. I need a Golden Retriever kiss (that’s mine today)!

Spiritual needs:  I need to sit and reflect upon the good things in my life. I need to say “no” to some things so that I can say “yes” to what really matters. I need to make some positive and necessary changes in my life.  I need to give thanks to God for all that I do have. I need to ask God and others for help.

Self-Care allows us to show up daily and be the best person we were created to be.  When applied, Self-Care allows us to thrive and experience the goodness in life!  What do you need at this very moment?

Each day, I have the pleasure of walking beside coaching clients as they discover the many benefits of living a life filled with Self-Care regardless of the situations going on around them. If you would like this, I would love to have a conversation with you!

Your life matters!

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