COACHING WITH

Tammy Barnett

Hope + Action!

“Hope Without Action Is Just a Wish”

I Hope someday I’ll not feel exhausted all the time. I hope someday I’ll have more time to take care of me.  I hope someday I can stop worrying about my loved one who is making poor choices for their life. I hope someday I’ll have less anxiety. I hope 2021 will be better than 2020. I hope my marriage will be better someday. I hope my relationships with my children will be more functional someday.   Sound familiar?

Webster’s Dictionary defines hope as to cherish a desire with anticipation: to want something to happen or be true. What are some of the hopes you have for your future?


Does This Belong To You?

“If I’m not part of the problem or I’m not part of the solution, then it doesn’t belong to me!” 

I did it again.  I jumped into a situation that didn’t belong to me! I’ll spare you the ugly details but I’m curious if this ever happens to you?

Here are some examples:

  • A friend is telling you about a circumstance they are currently dealing with, and when they stop to take a breath, you jump in with a list of all the solutions and action steps they need to take.
  • Your spouse orders a cheeseburger and french fries. You interrupt and suggest he change his order to something healthier.

Encouragement Matters!

 “Keep Encouraging. Your words may be the only pillars of strength for someone who is pulling themselves back up to stand again.”

The other day I was listening to a podcast and the topic being discussed was on encouragement.  The guests were exploring what the word encouragement meant to each of them.

One person recalled a time when they were going through a tough situation and a listening friend shared a similar experience they had been through. This conversation brought encouragement to know someone else understood.  Another person spoke about a time when a friend offered to help her with  care giving tasks for an aging parent.  This act of someone else helping allowed her some rest and gave her much needed support. 


What Fills Your Soul?

“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings you joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life” – Jean Shinoda Bolen

I sat across the room in a straight back chair facing my doctor.  It had been one of those mornings.  I got off to a late start, was feeling exhausted from a night of restless sleep and my sweet Golden Retriever had died just a few days earlier. Sadness loomed over me.

When I arrived at my doctor’s office late, I was ushered in by the nurse who asked me to step on the scale. Perfect….I  was up several pounds from the previous year. 


What Are You Waiting For?

“Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.”  -Benjamin Franklin and My Mom

Growing up I cannot count the number of times my mom told me, “Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.”  I believe this was my mom’s nice way of saying, “you better get up and do what I told you to do!” 😊

Last week I was having a conversation about life with a group of friends.  A wise friend who I always enjoy gaining insight from said, “If my life ends today, I don’t want to be caught waiting.” All week long I have thought about these words and the idea of waiting for someday before I start living the life I desire.