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Tammy Barnett

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How Are You Like A Mango Tree?

It was a gift to me from my son about a year ago.  It came in a pot and had the appearance of a healthy little Mango tree, hoping someday to become a  tall, robust tree producing lots of beautiful sweet and juicy fruit.

Over the last year

I have watered, fed, and moved the little tree as the seasons have changed to ensure it was getting enough sunlight.  It grew and grew and continued to look healthy until a few months ago when it started looking a little limp and droopy.  For days I watched it and asked myself, “What does it need”?  Perhaps it is sick or needs more water or sunlight, but the most logical reason was the pot seemed too small.  


Do You Treat Your Loved Ones Different?

My Monday was filled with many distractions, a long to-do list, lots of traffic on every road I traveled, and I felt tired all day.  When it came time to tackle dinner, my mind was already made up.  I just didn’t want to do one more thing!  I have learned that anytime my mind is on a negative path, things will not end well.  And that’s precisely how the next hour went, not well.

As with most evenings, my husband sits across the kitchen bar and chats with me while I prepare dinner (something I always enjoy).  But because my attitude was fixed on how lousy my day was, I was the last person anyone needed to be around. 


A Life With More Meaning

Are you living your best life possible?

You and I are quickly approaching the end of the first quarter in 2022. How are you doing? Are you finding joy, peace, and hope in day-to-day living? Would you say you are satisfied and living the life you desire? If this is you, congratulations, and let’s celebrate you!

But Maybe

You’re feeling a little stuck right now, not really sure what next steps will help you move forward? Or maybe you know what next steps to take, but you lack the energy and motivation? If you can relate, please know you are not alone, and feeling shameful or less than does not need to take up space in your life.


Let Go

Are there people, places, and things you need to let go of?
Sometimes we have to let go to allow better things to come into our life

I entered the new year feeling a little different than in the past new year’s. A sense of heaviness within me has been present and to date, it’s hard to explain.  As I continue to better understand this heaviness within me, I’m curious, how are you doing? Have there been changes for you? What do you hope for?  Is there anything that you need to let go of?

Some ideas and thoughts
My typical approach to life and when working with clients is almost always forward-focused. 


Are You A People Pleaser?

“Be a blessing to others, but don’t allow it to steal the joy and abundancy from your own life” -Joyce Meyer

Are you a people pleaser?

I’m curious, do you find yourself feeling trapped or aware of building resentment and overwhelm in your life? If you are brutally honest with yourself, do you often say yes out of obligation like, “I should do this,” instead of following your heart saying, “I really don’t want to do this”?

Ongoing people pleasing blocks you from becoming the best person you were created to be by putting personal growth, and goals on hold while you spend your life trying to please other people around you.

You might be a people pleaser if………

  • You continually make decisions in life hoping to make others happy.