Tammy Barnett

Category: Relationships

Make It A Wonderful Season!

“It’s the most wonderful time of the year. With the kids jingle belling and everyone telling you to be of good cheer…it’s the most wonderful time of the year!”

For some people, this holiday song that gets stuck in our head is true, but for many people instead of this being a wonderful time of the year, the holidays are hectic, stressful, exhausting, sad, lonely, and the list goes on and on. How is it for you right now?

Here’s what I’m observing

Our lives are busy and anything but problem-free. Work, day to day chores, school, life problems, addictions, illness, or the loss of a loved one are present in our lives regardless of the time of year.

One Amazing YOU!

Could you use something simple to encourage you and help lift your spirits? Something simple to help you look and feel more alive and motivated?

The world is a challenging place right now and many of us are feeling overwhelmed, weary, and weighed down by the challenges we are facing. I don’t know about you but the last thing I need right now is another goal to set, another diet to start, or another boot camp exercise routine to show up to.

Consider for a moment 2 simple things you can easily begin today that will help you look and feel better.

Benefits of Walking

Sean Foy, an exercise physiologist, and behavioral coach recently investigated what the researchers from the American College of Sports Medicine,

Self Caring in a Messy and Complicated World

September is Self Care Awareness Month

If you would have asked me several years ago to define Self-Care, I would have thought back to the last time I had a manicure and pedicure.  Don’t Laugh, that was reality! Manicures and pedicures are great, but there is so much more to taking caring of ourselves.

Let’s face it… life is complicated.  The stress and energy needed to keep up with and care for family, home, and work can be overwhelming. On top of this, throw in the long term effects and  worry of the last two years or the poor choices a loved one continues to  make, and the idea of caring for ourselves can easily be shoved quickly to the side.

Who’s Right?

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them to fit our own image.”   -Thomas Merton

Recently, I had a conversation with a friend who was struggling with a personal decision she needed to make. Coming into our conversation, my friend shared that she had been given lots of advice from other people about which was the right choice to make.  The struggle my friend was having was not with the choice she wanted to make, but rather with the unsolicited opinions of others that greatly interfered and influenced her.  My friend was left feeling confused and even guilty because the choice she wanted to make was not supported by others.

It’s All Your Fault

The Insanity of Blaming

I remember that moment like it was yesterday. Several years ago, I was struggling with a loved one’s self-destructive behavior. After venting about all the things wrong with my loved one, a wise mentor sat back in his chair across from me and breathed a big sigh. After a moment of silence, he spoke in a very calm voice…… “What are you doing to become healthier yourself”?   The reaction in my mind was immediate!  “What???? Are you kidding?  This was not my fault; it was all on my loved one.  Or was it”?

A new journey….

That day began a new journey for me. A journey that involved looking deeper into myself.