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COACHING WITH

Tammy Barnett

Category: Emotional Health

Have a Tough Conversation Using 2 Simple Steps

 

Do you find yourself avoiding people and situations because you know there’s a conversation that needs to take place?  Would you rather do almost anything than face conflict? You are not alone.  Having an uncomfortable discussion with someone can seem like the hardest thing in the world….. but it doesn’t have to be!

The number 1 principle is making sure your conversation contains words and a tone that expresses both TRUTH and LOVE.

Why? Speaking the truth in love:

  • Allows the other party to experience your care and concern for the relationship
  • Creates a safe and non-defensive environment
  • Opens the door for you to comfortably express yourself

 

What’s Keeping You Awake?

 

For many people this can be the norm, but it doesn’t need to be!

A friend recently shared she was experiencing several issues in her life which were causing sleepless nights and much worry.  She was also having difficulty focusing on daily tasks that left her with a large unchecked to do list at the end of the day.  My friend described herself as being exhausted and overwhelmed with no peace.

How is it for you? Worry? Concern over multiple issues?  Overwhelmed?

Coaching tip

Grab a journal or a piece of paper. Create two columns vertically.  In the first column, make a list of all the things that are causing you worry or stress. 

When is the Best Time to Plant a Tree?

 

Recently I stumbled on to an old Chinese Proverb that caused me to stop and think. This proverb says there are two best times to plant a tree.  The first was 20 years ago.

Immediately, my default thinking went to a thread of thoughts that sounded like this……Wow, 20 years was a long time ago.  I guess I missed out.  It’s too late to plant a tree. It will take too long to grow so I can enjoy its beauty and shade.

This got me thinking about the choices I have made in life and the dreams and goals I have yet to accomplish.  It also made me think about how many times I have made excuses for not taking action in order to live the life I desire. 

What Storm Are You Going Through Today?

Storm Season

Living in Florida is wonderful.  Our state’s nickname is the Sunshine State.  Sunshine and warm temperatures are the reality most every day of the year.  Beautiful sunrises and sunsets and beautiful beaches are everywhere!  And then there is the season  known as “Hurricane Season.”

Southwest Florida has been my home for over 20 years  and I always say, “The many benefits of living in Florida is worth going through Hurricane Season.”  This idea seems true until the threat of a huge storm comes knocking.

This last week Hurricane Dorian destroyed the Bahamas just south of us and threatened the east coast of Florida and battered all the states along the eastern seaboard. 

5 Benefits of Journaling

Journaling doesn’t have to be complicated. Look at it as simply reflecting upon the day, your thoughts, feelings and the situations going on in your life. It’s like having a healthy, helpful conversation with yourself. Over the years, this practice has brought me many benefits and I know you will benefit too!
Here’s what research reveals:

1. Journaling provides a natural stress relief, inviting a sense of peace in as you write, reflect, and let go of whatever is weighing you down.
2. Journaling allows you to have a voice and be heard. Write about your thoughts and feelings (say anything you want) without the fear or judgement of others.
3. Journaling allows you to clear your thoughts and release feelings of being overwhelmed.

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