Tammy Barnett

Category: Career/Employment

3 Steps to Lasting Change

Want to make positive changes in your life this year? Would you like these changes to be lasting? Do you believe it’s possible?

Consider for a moment, a habit. A behavior or pattern that you repeat over and over and eventually becomes something you do without much thought; such as……. brushing your teeth, taking a shower, driving to work, feeding the dog, collecting the mail. Would you agree  these are behaviors you do requiring little or no thought?

What if you turned the changes you want to make this year into a habit? A behavior your future self will do with little or no struggle! What if I told you it’s simpler than you think?

In his new book,

Have a Tough Conversation Using 2 Simple Steps


Do you find yourself avoiding people and situations because you know there’s a conversation that needs to take place?  Would you rather do almost anything than face conflict? You are not alone.  Having an uncomfortable discussion with someone can seem like the hardest thing in the world….. but it doesn’t have to be!

The number 1 principle is making sure your conversation contains words and a tone that expresses both TRUTH and LOVE.

Why? Speaking the truth in love:

  • Allows the other party to experience your care and concern for the relationship
  • Creates a safe and non-defensive environment
  • Opens the door for you to comfortably express yourself


When is the Best Time to Plant a Tree?


Recently I stumbled on to an old Chinese Proverb that caused me to stop and think. This proverb says there are two best times to plant a tree.  The first was 20 years ago.

Immediately, my default thinking went to a thread of thoughts that sounded like this……Wow, 20 years was a long time ago.  I guess I missed out.  It’s too late to plant a tree. It will take too long to grow so I can enjoy its beauty and shade.

This got me thinking about the choices I have made in life and the dreams and goals I have yet to accomplish.  It also made me think about how many times I have made excuses for not taking action in order to live the life I desire.