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Tammy Barnett

Category: Emotional Health

I Should Have

Do you ever find yourself caught up in conversations like this?

Recently I have become more aware of a repeating phrase being used in the conversations taking place in my circle of friends, family and especially the conversations taking place in my own mind. The pattern, I call it……. The Would’ve Should’ve Could’ve Syndrome or the WSC Syndrome. It sounds something like this:

I wished I would have made that choice…….I should have done that…….I could have said that. In fact, I’m doing it right now. I should have started writing this article two days ago so I wouldn’t feel the pressure of finishing it by my deadline.

So, are these phrases helpful?

If you think back on the times you use these phrases mentioned above,

Limiting Beliefs

Recently I was having lunch with a friend. Nearby was a large table filled with a group of women. Their voices were loud, making it difficult to not overhear their conversation. As each one spoke, here’s what I heard……
“I would love to start a new career but I’m too old to go back to school.”
“I’ve always wanted my own catering business but I’m afraid it won’t be a success.”
“I missed my calling years ago and it’s too late to think about it now.”

Throughout the day this conversation remained on my mind. It made me think about my own life decisions and dreams. The ones I have acted on, the ones I did not pursue,

Go Ahead and Celebrate!

Recently, I met with a client who has been trying to make a couple of positive changes in her life. The week before we met, she experienced a setback. She began our conversation by calling herself stupid and weak. She then proceeded to explain how disgusted she was with herself to the point of saying she might as well give up and quit trying to lose the extra weight and cut back on her drinking. “After all, I’ve tried time and time again, and I always fail.”

I asked my client to think about how she would respond if this were her best friend talking to her about this disappointment? Without hesitation, my client said that she would try to encourage her friend to keep trying and help her recognize this is just a setback.

3 Steps to Lasting Change

Want to make positive changes in your life this year? Would you like these changes to be lasting? Do you believe it’s possible?

Consider for a moment, a habit. A behavior or pattern that you repeat over and over and eventually becomes something you do without much thought; such as……. brushing your teeth, taking a shower, driving to work, feeding the dog, collecting the mail. Would you agree  these are behaviors you do requiring little or no thought?

What if you turned the changes you want to make this year into a habit? A behavior your future self will do with little or no struggle! What if I told you it’s simpler than you think?

In his new book,

Laughter……The Best Medicine

My “holiday to do” list going into last weekend was very long. In addition to this list, my almost 2-year-old grandson was coming for an overnight visit. Anyone who has been around a 2-year-old knows the constant attention needed, especially when a decorated Christmas tree is in the middle of the room!

Along with abounding energy, also comes an enormous amount of laughter! Alex literally laughs at almost everything! His constant giggles are contagious. During his visit,  all the stress and pressure of the things on my “to do list” suddenly became not so important as I was more relaxed and enjoying life in the very moment. Thank you, Alex, for sharing your wonderful gift of laughter!

As I considered how this laughter made me feel,

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